Training: a tool for self-actualization.
Whenever we are with a group we have the chance  to become  aware of our many shadows and unfinished business. Training with intention can be a tool  for transformation.

We need to be at choice and to be able to go into our three, four or  more top states while we are giving a training , but first and foremost we need to be opened and to embrace with acceptance and curiosity every feeling, thought and memory that comes to mind  during the process itself.

When we encounter different faces and styles, we are about to recognize  triggers that can be used to discover our hidden frames, among other things. We do develop as human beings in relationship with others, there is no other way . Our reactions to others are expressions of the type of world we live in.

When we train we are exposed to a dozen of facets  and reactions from others that help us to realize triggers and states that we would not experience- otherwise.  Groups are far too common the expression of our emotional flexibility or our lack thereof.
Our reactions are derived from our meanings and our meanings are  raw material for self-development . A sure way to flush out the unknown in us is to train and to facilitate a group getting the ego out of the way.

There is not such a thing as a difficult group , rather there are hidden parts of ourselves that we may not be in touch with. Self- awareness is a prerequisite for embracing what needs to be accepted and sometimes to be changed. When we are training  three main variables  to pay attention to are:

a. The way we relate to each individual.
b. The emotions we go through.
c. the meanings behind it.

What we aim at when we train others, regardless of the content is to:
1. Develop a relationship that is real, not just to appear friendly and politically correct.
2. Share emotions and really connect  with others
3. To experience whatever it is without labeling it.
4. Being aware of our frames, and to remember that  they are just that....frames.

Some people say that is far too common to experience anxiety while we are in front of a group, I don't buy that theory .

I rather think that every person we meet and every tone of voice we hear may trigger in us  many meanings that perhaps may need to be embraced and be transformed. There is a very simple process that I would like to share with you and  can  be used whenever you are working as a trainer:

1. Be aware of what you are feeling and in which part of your body you are experiencing it and bring to bear a state of acceptance and curiosity.

2. If you have already  labeled the feeling, go on and just "feel and observe" , refusing to name it.

3. Be aware of the connections you might have  and recognize them as the "connections"  your nervous system has created.

4. Enjoy the process and while doing that , give yourself permission to fail and not take yourself so seriously.
Cicle these four steps and meta-state yourself with it as many times as needed.

To your best
Omar Salom